Recently, I have had the opportunity to speak with several couples who are either struggling in their marriage to the point they are near divorce or they are already separated and divorce papers have been filed. The thing I have heard the most and actually is true of my first marriage is that none of them were given any teaching on how to do marriage. However, we have worked with several couples that have been to several marriage counselors but hadn’t been successful. They say frequently, “Why didn’t anyone tell us this?” It’s seems funny to me (I’m not saying we have all the answers nor am I criticizing any other counselor) that we have the answers laid out for us in the Bible and when we follow the plan it gives, we have a high level of success. Many people disregard the Bible as old fashioned or irrelevant but the truth is when you do the simple things that God lays out in his word, you chances for a happily ever after increase tremendously.
I remember early on in our ministry, I asked a pastor what books he liked on the subject of marriage. His response surprised me! He said “Well there are a lot of books out there but I find everything I need in the Bible.” At the time I thought he was just being arrogant, the more I study about marriage the more I find out just how right he was. The truth is the Bible is all about marriage, it starts with a wedding, ends with a wedding and everything in between is a groom looking for his bride. I love the mental picture that thought produces.
So here’s the simple way to have a happy marriage. First, husbands everywhere in the Bible where you see anything that Jesus did, that’s your role. Wives anywhere in the Bible you see what the church did or was told what to do, do that. You see, God invented marriage and marriage is really just a type and shadow of Christ and the Church. Secondly put the words of Ephesians 5:22 to work, do everything you do in marriage as unto the Lord. I always recommend that when you lay your head on the pillow at night you ask this one simple question, “God did I make you happy as a husband/wife today?” When you see your role as a husband or wife as doing it for God, your entire perspective changes.
Guaranteed success comes when we take the plan provided by the designer of the plan and put it into action. God designed marriage, He gave us the plan in His Word, all we have to do is work the plan.
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