We are now nearly half way through the month of January in 2014!!!! How the heck did that happen. Having past the mid-century mark in my life I now know and am in complete agreement with the statement, “Time flies whether you are having fun or not.” It seems funny that as a younger person I was always living for the next thing and now I am digging in my heals hoping to slow things down. Okay, enough about that and back to the topic at hand. With the first half of January behind us, the question is…..have your set goals for you marriage for 2014? For several years Steven and I have developed goals for our marriage and our family. I call it my vision list for the year. Habakkuk 2:2-3 says:
Then the Lord answered me and said,
“Record the vision
And inscribe it on tablets,
That the one who reads it may run.
3 “For the vision is yet for the appointed time;
It hastens toward the goal and it will not fail.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
For it will certainly come, it will not delay.
This is a pretty common passage when talking about visions. I love that it is so clear and easy to understand. You see having a written vision for your marriage and your family increases the likelihood that is will come to pass.
Having a written vision not only will help increase the success rate of reaching your vision it will also do several other things. First, it will help you bring clarity to what you really want. By taking the time to write it down you can give thought to what really is important to you and your spouse. You have the opportunity to narrow the list to the things that are really important to you. Secondly, keeping the vision in a place where you can see it, will help you be inspired to take action. I have a huge, wall size, Post It note pad that we write our vision on. Keeping it in a visible place all years keeps us inspired to keep pressing towards completing the vision. Seeing the vision regularly will increase your pin-point precision and increase your success rate. Thirdly, having a written vision will help you identify and avoid distractions. Going in to many directions will dilute the effectiveness of your vision. Fourth, keeping the vision list before you will help you press on when you want to quit. By looking at the vision and seeing the progress you have made toward the vision, you will have the inspiration you need when the going gets tough. Fifth, having a written vision will increase the success of your marriage as you and your spouse work together to accomplish the things on your list. Finally, it will increase the celebration when you see the vision accomplished.
If you have already completed your vision list, congratulations you are well on your way to being more successful in your marriage than the majority of marriages without a written vision. If you have yet to write the vision for your marriage, I encourage get together with your spouse, spend some time praying and then write the special vision for your marriage for 2014. I will be one of the best things you do for your marriage.