Most women when asked, would respond that the most important need of a man is sex. While respect/honor is actually the primary need of man, sex is a very close second. Yet sex is one of the biggest areas in many marriages that cause a lot of conflict. For many women I work with, this very conflict causes a great deal of pain. Finding ways to navigate the balance of desire for sex between husbands and wives can be very complex. However, by have some very open conversations with your spouse about where they are both coming from can help this area of your life come into balance. Beginning that conversation often means wading through unmet expectations, hurts, feelings of failure on both sides, and even the releasing of using sex as a punishment or reward. While this is can be a path least taken, it is a path that can lead to a more satisfying marriage then you have ever dreamed of. I encourage all couples to have open, honest, and loving conversations about where there marriage stands in relationship to their sexual intimacy.
I recently read a blog Holy Hot and Humorous which addresses one of the big issues in marital sex. Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn’t Mean He’s Stopped Wanting. This blog poses some great ideas. These ideas could be used to initiate a conversation that would help wives begin to discover exactly where their husband is in relationship to sex in their marriage. I encourage you to do a check up on your intimate relationship with your husband. It will be one of the most life giving things you will ever do.