When it comes to time, we all have 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, and 365 days in a year. However, I frequently hear many people saying I just need a few more hours to get everything done. Does this sound like you? I am the Small Groups Director for Victory Church in Oklahoma City. At my church, I lead 4 small groups as well as all the ministry required for the Small Groups department. My husband, Steven and I are the founders of Bridge Builder Marriage Ministry. We are Marriage and Relationship Life Coaches. We are authors. We have three children, 2 daughters-in-law and 3 amazing grandchildren. Our life is to say the least, very full. That is both good and bad. Having many things in your life to be thankful for and having many ways to invest in the lives of others is a great way to impact the world for the Kingdom of God. However, at the same time, it is important that we don’t get so busy that we don’t have time for the really important people in our lives.
Many times in the past I have worn busyness as a badge of honor. I am all about accomplishing things. In fact, my husband knows the best way to speak my love language is to take note and compliment my completion of tasks. I’m just a “get er done” kind of girl. In fact, for many years, he referred to me as the “White Tornado.” This same nickname was also adopted by the girls I worked with prior to coming to work at Victory Church. I am great at getting things done, the problem is many times I would plow people over and not even recognize it until the wounded and dead were lying all around. This is an area where I have to be very aware all the time. We all remember the Biblical story of Mary and Martha. In Luke 10:38-42 we see Jesus taught Martha that busyness can prevent you from the most important things in your life.
38As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” 41“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42but only one thing is needed.f Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Have you found yourself in a place where you are beginning to feel like you haven’t had any time alone with your husband that didn’t include snoring. If you are doing nothing more than sleeping in the same bed together you are in a dangerous place. If your life is so incredibly busy that you don’t have time to spend with the people your truly love. It is time to re-evaluate your life. At the end of the day, what we accomplish pales in comparison to the relationships we build and honor. I want to encourage you to take some time and evaluate your life. Eliminate anything that really is not important, be intentional about making time for God and for the people who are the most important in your life. These choices will be worth more than you know.