As I talk to women about becoming the wife that God has called them to be, most of them want to become that wife. However, when you begin to open the box and look at the characteristics that God lays out in the Bible describing a Godly wife, that enthusiasm can be overtaken by concern, hesitancy, or even fear. There are 2 main themes I frequently hear when talking to wives about this and they are first, “If God tells me to do all this stuff, won’t I just become a doormat?” and secondly, “How long do I have to keep doing this stuff if my husband doesn’t treat me right?” The basic problem with these questions is they very clearly lay out the primary motivation for why they are interested in becoming a Godly wife. Both responses are rooted in the benefits for themselves. I would like to encourage wives to look at it from a different vantage point. What if you go back to the beginning and find a different motivation for becoming a Godly wife. Suppose everything you do is based solely on the fact that you love God so much that you want to follow His plan for you out of a heart of love and obedience? Imagine if you had confidence in the fact that God’s plan for your life is a plan of blessing, peace, contentment and love? I believe that if you make obedience to God your motivation for becoming a Godly wife then it changes the way you approach your marriage.
Marriage was created by God in the beginning. While God may have had multiple reasons for creating marriage one reason is that marriage is a type and shadow of Christ and the church. In the new testament the church is referred to as the “Bride of Christ.” (Ephesians 5) What if we broadened our approach to becoming a Godly wife past just marriage? What if we thought about our impact on the world as we live a life as a Godly wife? Would it change anything about how we acted towards our husbands? Would we consider submission, honor and respectfulness move valuable? What if we thought by really learning what the Bible has to say about being a Godly wife we could impact more than just our spouse and children? There is so much more that we as wives are called to do. When we walk in obedience to God’s word and we choose as an act of our will to become what the Bible says we should be, our influence increases significantly.
When we chose to follow God’s word and do what He asks us to do we put ourselves in a place where He can bless us. So I encourage you today, if you feel like you are not as blessed as you would like to be, become a Godly wife who is respectful, honoring and submitted as an act of obedience to God’s will and you will begin to see His blessings in your life. When the attitude is one of obedience to God’s will, you will no longer be asking the two questions about being a doormat or how long you have to keep it up. Your desire to fulfill the plan and purposes of God will overtake those concerns and replace them with a peace that you may have never know. So I ask you, will you begin to change your focus today? Will you chose to become obedient God today?